Reasons Why Younger Men Choose Cougar Dating Apps To Date Cougars

Mature dating is all about two willing people and usually it does not really have emotional attachments. Cougar dating is more about having fun; the older women are looking for some fun and the younger men alike and so the dating is always a win for them both. There are so many reasons why younger men prefer dating older women and why older women also love dating younger men.

Cougar dating apps have made the dating even easier for the singles. They have made it very easy to connect with the older women, but there are a number of other reasons why younger men love to use the apps to date the cougars.

A cougar dating app offers discretion – It is highly expected that the society will judge a young man chasing after an older woman. To eliminate this kind of exposure, the young men find the apps better in terms of keeping the affairs discreet. They have the freedom to date the cougars privately and at their own good time, which is a much better option compared to looking for an older woman offline.

The apps offer more exposure – One of the best things about online cougar dating is that the singles enjoy the more exposure, meaning they have a number of singles to choose from. Men hate feeling limited to one person and the dating apps eliminate this because they remain at liberty to test the waters before making a decision. Using the apps, it is actually possible for them to date more than one woman at the same time and this excites the young men.

Cougar dating app offers more options – Apart from exposing them to older women, a cougar dating app also gives the young men the chance to peruse through the profiles and sample the interested older women before making a move on the ones they feel most attracted to. With this kind of freedom, the chances of choosing a woman they are likely to get along with and remain attracted to are high making the online dating a much better choice for them.

The apps make dating more flexible – With a dating app handy, young men are able to date cougars at the best times according to their schedules. They can hook up with the women when it is most convenient to them and from any given place for that reason. It is dating that is less demanding and hectic for them and they enjoy it very much over feeling strained by physical meetings all the time. With a dating app, young men can decide what time is best to hook up with a cougar and when it is best to keep chatting online.

A dating app makes it just as easy to find new connections – It is not always given that the first date will work. But even when it fails, it is easy for the younger men to get right back into the search for a better cougar affair. It does not require that much effort with a dating app.

Cougar dating has been made easier and enjoyable by cougar dating apps, especially for younger men who would rather remain discreet about their older women’s affairs.

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Why Is Dating Important?

Dating is a stage of romantic and/or sexual relationships in humans whereby two or more people meet socially, possibly as friends or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in a more committed intimate relationship or marriage according to Wikipedia. Now, if we talk about dating, what comes to your mind? Well, there are different views when it comes to the issue of dating especially believers. Some say it is not good for Christians; whilst others say it is good just like it is for any other person regardless of religious beliefs. Both arguments have valid points. However, the challenge is with the conclusion an argument draws. We shall look at the two arguments and then draw a conclusion. According to Wikipedia, dating is a stage of romantic and/or sexual relationships in humans whereby two or more people meet socially, possibly as friends or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in a more committed intimate relationship or marriage.

The argument against dating

The conclusion against dating is as a result of the negative tendencies according to the proponents of this argument. Here are some of the tendencies:

1) Dating does not necessarily lead to commitment but to intimacy. Becoming intimate without commitment to each other is not desired for various reasons.

2) Dating tends to skip a very important stage of a relationship, which is friendship. Friendship is very important and it should precede a committed love relationship.

3) The dating couple substitutes the love relationship for a physical relationship. It has been noted some people quickly enter into a sexual relationship before understanding what true love is.

4) Dating isolates a couple from other important relationships most of the time.

5) In most cases, dating distracts young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future.

6) God’s gift of singleness gets overlooked. Dating tends to cause discontentment with singleness and yet it is also a wonderful stage of life.

The argument for dating

May it be indicated that as much as the problems indicated in the argument against dating are valid and genuine, they are not necessarily caused by dating in itself but by the people involved in it. That means if one avoids dating, it does not mean the stated problems will be cured. The cure for such problems is the same as that of other life issues. What is the cure of life issues? The Bible is. The Bible is needed to ensure spiritual growth and maturity as much as it is needed in handling relationship issues. The problem lies with the issue of values and characters of the people involved. Avoiding dating cannot remove such problems if they exist in the lives of these people who are dating. There has to be set boundaries during the dating period.

What are the benefits of dating?

1) People get the opportunity to learn about themselves, others, and relationships before commitment. This provides a safe context. One gets time to discover the opposite sex and skills on issues of relationship. This must be done around people who care about you. This may include your parents, friends, youth pastor, coach, and others.

2) Provides a context for working through issues. That which people value now may change overtime. What you value now may not be good for you in the future. So dating allows you to discover your long term values. You might not marry the person you first loved. Why? Some changes take place as you discover yourself.

3) Relationship skills are built

Some necessary skills are not learned in families. A lot of work and skills are required in intimate relationships. Communications, trust, listening, sacrifice and honesty issues arise during the dating period. You become aware of your immaturity. You get to learn about relationship and how one function in a relationship.

4) It heals and repairs

Some people pass through hurts when they are young. They may have missed an opportunity to be loved. You find that they never experienced love. During dating they start feeling loved and accepted. That way they receive healing from someone that accepts and nurture them. The interesting thing is that many people do not marry their first love. This first relationship tends to be an environment for growth and healing to some. These singles get prepared for their final love relationship.

5) Dating is relational and has value in itself.

Some people use others selfishly in dating. They use it for self-gratification. However, some enjoy knowing the other person. So they give and receive in a godly way, interestingly not in a way that leads to marriage. Unmarried people do not share parts of themselves as they are expected to restrain from sexual intimacy. That is true love. Love that rushes to sex before knowing each other and getting married later is not true love.

6) You get to know your likes and dislikes in the opposite sex

There is so much that one learns about relationships during dating. One might desire to get something opposite what he experienced from relationship in a family situation. But he may discover that for a love relationship there is more than what he is making up for. You may discover that the attributes you thought you needed are not necessarily what is good for you.

7) You learn self-control and delay of some other gratifications

Some people think that a love relationship is just about sex. Sex needs to be forgone in dating. First learn to relate and to care for each other without sex. Once you mature in that first, there will be fewer problems once you get married. After getting married you can then climax your love with sex. Let there be boundaries in your dating and that will protect both of you. There is time for everything according to Ecclesiastes 3:1, “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

There is a good reason for dating. Dating in itself is not evil or bad. Immature people overstep boundaries and then bad consequences follow. Handled with care, dating can lead to a fulfilling love life that will last. First learn each other and become friends and discover if indeed you are compatible for marriage. If you feel that you are not good together, terminate the relationship. Set boundaries help you both not to be clouded and then think you are in a true love relationship. Once you have developed the relationship and are both satisfied that you were meant for each other, you can commit to each other and then get married. After that you can start enjoying sex.

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Gay Dating Tactics: Your First-Date Do’s & Don’ts

Introduction

Nothing gets the heart pumping quite like the nervous anticipation that goes along with going out on a first date with a guy. Whether it’s a blind date or someone you’re already acquainted with, the first meeting with a dating prospect brings with it a host of emotions, more commonly a mixture of excitement and nervousness. As the pivotal moment approaches, thoughts can become centered on such questions as: “Will he like me?” “Will I like him?” “Is he going to be The One?” “What if I mess things up and make a fool of myself?” “What will I talk about? What if I run out of things to say?”

Everyone’s experience is different, but the one common denominator that most daters would testify to is that it can be difficult to navigate through the waters of man-to-man dating. Although it’s changing, we gay men have few role models to emulate when it comes to love and romance. There’s no template to follow and we were never taught how to flirt with and date other men. There are no rules, no structure, and no guidance. How do two men join together in the “courtship dance?” While a lack of rules for gay dating can be a positive thing, lending to more creativity, spontaneity, and individuality, it can also create anxiety and a sense of “cluelessness” in how to meet and date successfully–kind of like a car without a driver.

This article will offer some tips on how to approach your first date with that lucky guy you’ve chosen to get to know in sequence of that date’s occurrence. While these are by no means “rules”, these ideas can offer a means to ground yourself and make the most out of the experience without sabotaging it before it gets off the ground. Pick and choose the ones that seem right for you and create your own principles as a means of being a healthy dater who lives with integrity and follows his own values.

Before the Date

·When setting a time and place for your date, be sure to make it a short meeting (1-2 hours) for the first time and select a place that is either activity-oriented or allows for lots of opportunity to talk. Avoid movies and instead opt for a short get-together at a coffee shop or at the zoo. Making it brief takes a lot of the pressure off, especially if you find the two of you aren’t compatible, and allows for healthy pacing of your dating relationship. You can always extend the date if you’re getting along famously.

·Take the emphasis off of it being a date and instead view it as a chance to meet a potential new friend. This can help “take the edge off” and allow you to relax without focusing on the outcome of the date. Avoid placing too many hopes and expectations on the encounter; let it evolve naturally and if a spark ignites during your time together, then that’s an added bonus!

·If you’re particularly nervous, take some time to do some relaxation exercises (deep breathing, visualization, etc.) to help soothe yourself and get centered. If you’re worried about what to talk about, generate a list of possible ideas beforehand and role-play with a friend to build confidence. But don’t rely too much on this or you’ll appear stiff and rehearsed. Be cool and be yourself. This isn’t about performance.

·Dress comfortably and in clothing that makes you feel good about yourself. Make sure you and your date are on the same page about the style of dress for your date. In my own dating days, I showed up for a second date in a nice oxford shirt and jeans to then find my other half dressed to the nines in a French suit not realizing his intentions for the evening. It made for a very embarrassing moment and he cancelled the reservations he’d made for us for dinner at a ritzy, fine-dining establishment. He then changed into more casual clothes and took me to a family restaurant instead. Ouch! His image of me instantly changed and he stopped seeing me after that. He did us both a favor by ending things, but at the time it was quite humiliating. So be clear to avoid any miscommunication.

During the Date

·Be punctual and relax. No matter how attracted you may be to the man sitting across from you, it is your responsibility to be yourself–avoid trying to put up a façade and be someone you’re not to try to impress your date. You are great just as you are. Let him get to know the real you; otherwise, you’re engaging in a form of deception that will only come back to bite you later. Be authentic and eventually you’ll be rewarded with a truly compatible partner.

·Be attentive to your date. Show respect by maintaining good eye contact and don’t let those eyes stray if there are other attractive men in the room. Have an open posture and let your nonverbal communication and body language convey interest in learning about your date. Stay out of your own head and shut off those distracting thoughts; really listen to what he’s saying. Balance active listening with sharing things about yourself. Ask open-ended questions to gain more elaboration on points made in your discussion to stretch out conversations and learn more about your date. This is especially effective if you’re feeling shy or are short on things to say because it gets the other person talking more, allowing for more tidbits that you can start other dialogues about. Be positive and let your sense of humor shine through.

·Avoid controversial topics of discussion as these may be offensive to your date. You can ease into these the more you get to know him. Avoid alcohol, as this may alter your behavior, and stay away from sexual content and innuendo. Unless sex is the motivation for your date, introducing sexual talk into your first date can set the tone in an inappropriate direction. Discussions about sex and sexual preferences can come later after you’ve been able to establish more of a genuine, mature connection. Questions like “Are you a top or a bottom?” may appear crass at a first meeting and may cause an unfavorable impression of you to form in your date’s mind and image of you.

After the Date

·Whether your date was a smash hit or a disaster, exercise good manners and thank your new acquaintance for the date. If you’d like to see him again, state this and call him in a day or so to ask him out again. Don’t get caught up in the whole dating game of “How many days should I hold off to call him to avoid looking desperate?” or “I’m going to let him be the one to call me.” If you like him, take charge of your life and make that call. If you didn’t feel a “love connection” with the guy, thank him for the date and kindly and tactfully tell him that it’s not a match. While this may be extremely difficult, it’s always best to be honest and direct in a gentle, polite way. If you’d like to try to develop a friendship instead, suggest that. But be honest and direct and don’t tell him you’ll call him again if you really have no intention of doing so. That’s cruel.

·Do some de-briefing after your date and reflect on your conduct, as well as your date’s, and perhaps journal about the experience. How did you feel? How did you manage yourself during the date? What would you have changed? What went well? What did you learn about yourself as a result of this date? How would you rate the date and the guy you met? From what you can tell so far, is there compatibility with your personal requirements and vision for a life partner? Is he matching up thus far with your needs, wants, goals, and values?

Conclusion

Dating can be a nerve-wracking, daunting task, particularly with the absence of dating education available to us as gay men. What traditions and roles that our heterosexual counterparts have for dating are applicable for us, if any? What are we supposed to do?

The key is to have fun with dating and take a light approach. Dating is both an art and a science in my belief, combining common sense decision-making with self-awareness of what one wants and needs for a happy and fulfilling lifestyle. When your dating behavior is in alignment with your values and vision for a relationship, you’ll be living with integrity and will be able to approach all your dates with a more relaxed tone and confident demeanor. It will make the process much more easy-going and rewarding. Cheers to your dating success!

©2005 Brian L. Rzepczynski

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Online Dating Services – First Date

Online dating should be easy, full of fun and simple. That’s why we strive to offer some of the best dating tips to think about when going out on dates. These dating tips are to make your stress lighter and control your excitements. These will also help you in making your date smile brighter.

It goes this way. You’ve previously sent out a tease to someone whose profile has aroused your curiosity and interest in you for that person. It was, maybe, due to their amazing profile, their electrifying photos or their magnetic personal values as mentioned in their profile. Now, you find that they have responded you positively to your tease and your mail inbox is filled with their messages, which are waiting for you. That’s the way, how you are going to meet great singles at an online dating site nowadays.

You could be either experienced dater or newbie. If that’s the case, then thoughts of preparation for first date could make you nervous and your mind will be flooded with queries such as where to meet? What should I wear? Do I need to take a gift? How this person would be? Would I be able to talk smoothly and keep my conversation going? and so on.

Now, just take a moment and relax. There is nothing to fear about. Believe in yourself and enjoy the moment of dating. Read the following and get more ideas to come over your anxieties.

Ask first

Find out first if your prospective date is interested to be with you. Send mails or call up to say “would you mind for an evening cup of coffee together”, “what do you say for brunch at SunShine this Sunday” or something similar which you think your date would easily accept to meet. Don’t just ask someone out for the sake of it but find someone if you are really interested to go for first date and also you partner is interested. If your proposal is accepted then go ahead and fix the time and place for meeting.

Pick the right spot

When you decide to go for your first date, there are lot of options. Either you can meet your date at the public place, at the good restaurant, at yours or date’s house or even go for a movie. Two hours movie date may not be so good to start with. You perhaps don’t want to sit and stare each other and if movie is good, you may get engrossed so much that you might ignore your date.

Ideally, most dating couples prefer an open place which is cozy but also surrounded with people. It should not be very crowded where you your privacy is hampered. Most suitable places are coffee shop, happy hour bar or casual lunch joint where you have good time to begin with formal intro, discussion on general issues and get to know each other. Remember that your intention should not be to impress your date with lavish ambience. If you don’t know such place then check it out with your friends and colleagues or even your date. A first date should be impressive and memorable.

Tell your friends about your date

Sharing haps with friends will lighten up and appease any safety worries you might have. Also, you will have someone to share your first date moments of laughs and glee, if any.

Don’t keep the high hope

Remember one thing that you are going on a first date and not for marriage. You are going to see a strange person, whom you do not know much about. Consider that you’ll see only a friend in your first date. Keeping this momentum will takes the pressure off and is one of the keys to a fantastic first date.

Be on time

It is advisable to be on time or little bit early on your first date. Should also expect the same from your date. If you make too late then chances are that either you’ll miss the date or you’ll lose the excitement of meeting someone for the first time.

Impressive Dressing

Clothing do play vital role in first date. New clothes are preferred. if not then go for your best of collection which will fit you well and you feel most comfortable, good and fabulous. Remember, “dress to kill” on your first date. Also make sure that you that whatever you wear is appropriate for the place you’re meeting at. Of course, neat and clean personality will definitely follow more dates to come.

Conversation

A good conversation will also impress your date. Speak in soft and gentle tone. Conversation with a gentle and confident voice will help you in building impressive personality in the eyes of your date. An impressive conversation in the beginning will help you in building good relationship in coming dates. Give the compliment to your date which should sound more genuine than appeasing. Pay attention to your date. Listen what your date says. Avoid complaining on the very first date. Also, avoid discussing about your ex-boy or girlfriends and how you broke with them. Avoid painting negative part of your dating experience in front of your date first time.

Give Respect

Respect your date. Pay due attention when your date is talking. Be respectful and polite. Give more space in talking to your date rather than giving yourself more attention and importance. Give enough time to your date to express his or her views. Monitor your conversation specially the humor. What is more hilarious to you may not be funny to your date. But if you both find something amusing then laugh up a storm. Use thank you’s and sorry in your conversation frequently.

Keep the momentum live

If you find everything is going well and you liked the company of the person then go ahead and ask for the next dates. Tell your date how you felt nice on the first date. If your date has also enjoyed then chances are that you’ll get positive reply sooner or later.

At the end of date, thank your date for joining you and say something nice before you depart.

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Benefits of Online Dating Services

In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don’t choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.

Nowadays, there’s a more modern, and organized approach to this mating ritual. Welcome to the world of online dating. There are a lot of advantages that go with this method.

Now singles can meet and greet each other without leaving the refuge of their homes. Sounds crazy, but now this is the most preferred way individuals, especially young people socialize.

One of the greatest things about online dating is that participants get to specify the exact type of person they are looking for. This can be done by joining a dating online service, or posting a personal.

An online dating service is basically a community of people who gather together to interact, socialize, and make friends with each other. There are a lot of online dating services on the internet.

Some online dating services require participants to subscribe to their websites. The great thing about online dating services that are run by subscription, is that their members are assessed before joining.

Aspiring members are asked to file an application, and are required to meet the guidelines, and requirements that are set by the online dating service. Some online dating services are more discerning than others. A few selected online dating services even require their members to be prescreened before joining. This is done for the safety of the participants. In return, subscribers are asked to make a monthly payment.

Subscribers are often asked to create a profile that relates basic information about themselves. Usually this includes: age, gender, nationality, and place of residence.

For subscribers this also offers them a chance to express themselves. They can get creative with their profiles. They can also include personal information like hobbies, interests, and specify the type of person they are looking for. Profile Benefits of Online Dating Services

In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don’t choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.

Nowadays, there’s a more modern, and organized approach to this mating ritual. Welcome to the world of online dating. There are a lot of advantages that go with this method.

Now singles can meet and greet each other without leaving the refuge of their homes. Sounds crazy, but now this is the most preferred way individuals, especially young people socialize.

One of the greatest things about online dating is that participants get to specify the exact type of person they are looking for. This can be done by joining a dating online service, or posting a personal.

An online dating service is basically a community of people who gather together to interact, socialize, and make friends with each other. There are a lot of online dating services on the internet.

Some online dating services require participants to subscribe to their websites. The great thing about online dating services that are run by subscription, is that their members are assessed before joining.

Aspiring members are asked to file an application, and are required to meet the guidelines, and requirements that are set by the online dating service. Some online dating services are more discerning than others. A few selected online dating services even require their members to be prescreened before joining. This is done for the safety of the participants. In return, subscribers are asked to make a monthly payment.

Subscribers are often asked to create a profile that relates basic information about themselves. Usually this includes: age, gender, nationality, and place of residence.

For subscribers this also offers them a chance to express themselves. They can get creative with their profiles. They can also include personal information like hobbies, interests, and specify the type of person they are looking for. Profile guidelines vary depending on the online dating service participants choose to partake in.

One of the main reasons people choose to participate in an online dating service, is that so many people are doing it! Technically speaking, this increases an individual’s chances of finding the right person that’s meant for him or her.

In 2004, it was estimated that people who lived in the US, spent more than $460 million on online dating services. This means, that a lot of people are seriously getting online and spending money, trying to find their potential soul mates.

Also, singles who are a part of an online dating service know that they are there for a reason, which is to meet people, socialize, make friends, and potentially find the love of their lives. So this takes out the guess work of a person’s intention out of the equation because everyone who is a part of an online dating community is looking for the same thing.

Also, the availability of an online dating service is irresistible. Individuals can avail of their services 24 hours a day! So participants can log on to their online dating service any hour of the day.

If they are bored, staying in bed because of a sore throat, or they just feel like staying at home on a weekend; they can always check if somebody is trying to contact them through their online dating service. They can browse through other people’s profiles and try to seek out the one that strikes their fancy!

There are a lot of online dating services that are absolutely free! This is beneficial to those individuals who are new to the world of online dating services. Those who just want to have some fun and try something new can try out these free services first, and see how it suits them. Later on, they can move on to the more exclusive, by subscription online dating services, once they’ve gotten the hang of online dating.

It is important to note that with online dating services, not everyone who participates, tells the absolute truth! So it vital for participants to practice caution at all times.

An online dating service doesn’t require participants to meet the people they interact with in person. This decision entirely belongs to the participants. So it important to always keep one’s wits about, and practice logic, when engaging in these online activities. This will also ensure the safety of online dating participants, and also allow them to have maximum fun!

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